Selfies Rule! Is Everybody Single?
Becoming aware of these headlines just a few days ago made me wonder, “What’s happening?” 50.2% of Americans are now single compared to 37% in 1976; the first time this has happened since the government began compiling statistics. Even though the majority of adults are now single, I encounter more and more of them wanting to find ‘the one,’fall in love, and even get married.
What’s happening?
The overpowering desire for romantic love continues to make the world go around. Many songs, movies, and books have tried to capture the passionate obsession of love. Most of us have experienced it. The seducing power of being in love is hard to explain, but the desire to know it pushes us to seek it. To describe it leaves us somewhat mystified, yet we all know it when it hits.
According to anthropologist, Dr. Helen Fisher, romantic love is not an a motion as she thought, but actually a physical drive much like thirst, and hunger, and it comes from the wanting, craving part of the mind. She states it is more potent than the sex drive, and is one of the most powerful brain systems on earth for both great joy and great sorrow! (excerpt from friendship-ing: A New Approach To Single Adult Relationships)
Knowing something is missing, yet never challenging what, single men and women continue to stumble around feeling trapped with no way out of the disappointments of love. It’s time to recognize there is an elephant in the room.
What is it that keeps men and women opting out of the commitment to the one thing so many of them really desire . . . the one? What do you think?
